Tuesday 16 April 2024

The rest of February! And all of March! And half of April! It's all about my knee replacement....

 The truth about total knee replacement.... Or: the rest of February! And March! And April!!!

Nothing had prepared either of us for the level of pain I experienced post-op.

The pre-op assessments had all seemed comprehensive and straightforward: blood tests, ECG, explanations from physiotherapists, even occupational therapists (which seemed to be mainly about how to put one’s underwear on). There were all kinds of leaflets to read about what to expect, what the spinal anaesthetic procedure would be, and so on. I felt well-prepared and excited to be finally ‘fixing’ the arthritic knee which has limited my activities for over the last dozen years.

Going into hospital – after the op had been delayed by three weeks – was easy. My operation was scheduled during ‘Closure Week’ when, normally, there wouldn’t be many operations going on. So, initially, there were just two of us on a nine-patient ward and I was fortunate to have a room and bathroom to myself. The staff were all very friendly, the anaesthetist – who I hadn’t met previously – was kind and competent, sedating me after the spinal so that I drifted off after just a couple of minutes in the anaesthetics room, only coming gently round as I was wheeled out of theatre. Such a pleasant experience compared with the general anaesthetics I had had more than 35 years previously.

Back at the ward, I was given painkillers for when the ‘spinal wore off’, and then the ‘fun’ started. More pain in my leg than I had ever experienced, including appendicitis and the worst of toothaches, which seemed to consume my whole body. Agony.

Eventually, midway through the night (I had been returned to the ward at around 5pm, still blissfully unaware and able to drink a cup of tea with a delicious egg sandwich), my whimpering caused the staff to take pity on me, giving me morphine and more tea and toast. I was, initially, able to drift off for half an hour for a short nap but was soon then awake.

That night, and subsequent nights, seemed to last forever. Morphine had little effect: otherwise I was only given a normal dose of intravenous paracetamol, eventually moving on to paracetamol tablets and codeine tablets in preparation for discharge.

Physio began almost immediately. One lovely nurse – Karenjoi – warned me that the physio could be a bit ‘aggressive’ and dosed me up with painkillers in good time beforehand. Welcome relief, afterwards, was a bag of ice on my injured knee.

She wasn’t kidding. Every move I made felt as if the stitches – 20 cm of them – were tearing open as pain ripped down my knee and shin. My muscles barely seemed to work: I could only move my operated leg on and off the bed by rotating my whole body and supporting the leg with the ankle of my good leg: a useful tip from the physios. To start with, my leg completely refused to bend, remaining stubbornly stuck straight out in front of me. Nevertheless, I practiced the exercises as best I could, transferred myself from a walker onto crutches (still looking like a ninety year old granny – I have the photo to prove it), ‘walked’ along the corridor and then up and down the stairs – and was then signed off as fit to leave the hospital.

Still, once home I found I could manage the bathroom well with first 2 crutches, then 1, holding onto the washbasin to lower or pull myself up.  By 3 weeks, I was almost walking unaided.

There was a steep learning curve in the interim.

I found myself phoning the nurses at the Medical Specialist Group a couple of times. My foot and ankle has swelled up hugely: is that normal? (Yes.). Are these levels of pain normal? (Disappointingly, yes. Keep taking the paracetamol and codeine.) And, embarrassingly: I double dosed on paracetamol by mistake: does it matter? (No – there were 3 hours between the two doses, so not too awful.) I was grateful for the calm, friendly voice at the other end of the phone line.

I discovered that icing under the knee, using a sandwich of 3 freezer ice packs rather than a bag of ice (which had a tendency to leak!), was as useful as icing on top of it.

Waking in the night from pain – which I did frequently – meant that I needed to move, whether a short walk around the house to relieve the cramping muscles, or a change to a comfortable recliner chair.

The pain was considerably worse at night, as the body used the night hours to focus on healing. I became so stiff that the pain woke me: putting headphones in and listening to David Suchet read the psalms, via BibleGateway, was a soothing distraction.

After a week or so, I stopped taking codeine during the day, tried, at first, to reduce it at night but then went back up to a normal dose until I felt I could reduce it again.

A heat pad on the back was invaluable, soothing knotted muscles and aching bones.

And friends came, and came… such a blessing. They brought meals, flowers, chocolates – but most of all, they brought love and care and a welcome distraction from all the pain. The days when there were no 6 Nations Rugby matches and no visitors (sometimes I’d had three lots in a day, so I wasn’t complaining!) seemed endlessly long. I read, played puzzles, coloured the lovely prayer journal which Adele had ordered for me; messaged on WhatsApp to friends and family far away; and read far too much on facebook, scrolling to distract myself.

One particularly useful diversion, which took my mind off the inevitable pain and discomfort when doing the exercises, was to watch the BBC game show Would I Lie To You? Fun.  I tried one or two other recommendations, but that was definitely the most effective.

By 3 weeks, days were enjoyable – if slow when no one dropped in to visit – but the nights still trial. I was signed off work for 12 weeks total: still a way to go, so practicing patience was in order.

One delightful addendum: my op was scheduled for February 14th: Valentine’s Day. We don’t usually ‘celebrate’ it, but this time, Richard sent me a delightful set of emojis: 👩‍❤‍👨 🐈‍⬛ 🕰 ❤  I had to have it explained to me: 2people+ heart, is us then dog all waiting for their loved one to come back. Never mind that the ‘dog’ was a cat! So sweet of him. He has been absolutely fantastic: so thoughtful and attentive, uncomplainingly fetching and carrying for me, cooking breakfast and other meals, driving me to appointments…

The second half of February, then, passed by in a blur of pain. My stitches were removed by a nurse at MSG at the end of the month: a fascinating picture. It all looked much neater and cleaner than I was expecting: indeed, at my pre-op check the nurse had sighed, “Oh, Mr Hopcroft does the neatest scars,” and that was certainly the case.

I was still using two crutches when I had my first physio appointment two weeks after the operation, but soon graduated to one and then, four weeks after, I could just about walk without any at all, just using a stick occasionally.

The physio, Peter, was brilliant. He answered my many questions very patiently.

What position should my knee be in? Straight. (Not what I wanted to hear – that was quite uncomfortable.) Can my leg lean to one side? No, it should be straight. (Again, that was uncomfortable.)  How painful should it be to do the exercises? As painful as you can bear it.

I had, in fact, mostly picked that up from the internet – which was not hugely helpful until I discovered the website of the Royal Orthopaedic Hospital in Birmingham which proved to be a mine of commonsense and practical advice.  Still, it was good to get it confirmed.

He was very kind, but there really wasn’t much either of us could do about the pain, although I did have some leg-stretching exercises I could do when the pain woke me up.

Which it did, frequently. My sleeping pattern was awful for over seven weeks. I would, perhaps, sleep for the first two hours before the pain in my leg muscles woke me up. Then, if I was lucky, I would doze, woken by pain at hourly intervals. Sometimes it was my outer calf muscles, then behind the knee, or sometimes the lower thigh. Referred pain caused discomfort in my lower back and top of the thigh/groin area. A warm wheatbag helped enormously, though in my zeal to heat it up, I managed to set fire to it a couple of times when warming it up in the microwave, resulting in a wonderful smell of burnt toast, several wheat grains scattered among the sheets and several sessions of repairs involving needle and thread.

I found myself awake every night. Getting up and walking around helped the pain initially, loosening up the muscles, but then I could not settle. I would go into the sitting room, where a reclining chair and mattress, complete with blankets, cushions and duvet, would be waiting. If I was lucky, I would doze off at around 4 or 5 am for an hour or so…

But, of course, I could catch up during the day. Naps lasted from an hour to a full morning or afternoon, but I didn’t fret, reasoning that my body would sort itself out eventually once the pain became more manageable. I had been sent out from hospital with a long prescription for paracetamol and codeine – two weeks’ worth. By the end of one week of taking this – not even two weeks after the operation – I realized that the pain was not going to go away quickly, so I started reducing the codeine during the day so that I could stretch the period during which I would take it, keeping it for the night hours. And, although there were no directions to do so, I slowly reduced the daily dose until, from an initial 240mg a day, I was taking only 30mg.

Wow. A good thing too. Coming off the codeine was very unpleasant. I felt quite unwell for the first two weeks without it, feeling as if I had stomach flu, and it wasn’t until the end of the third week that I felt I was getting back to normal. Never again. I wasn’t even sure that it was particularly effective.

I persevered – as I had been encouraged to do by every knee replacement patient I had spoken to – with the exercises. Three times a day, varying with each physio visit, and sometimes so painful that I felt sick and dizzy, yet by 8 weeks after the op my knee had reached a wonderful 120 degrees of flexion and I was almost pain-free. So much so, that Peter then discharged me with the proviso that I could return within a couple of months if I needed to. Meanwhile, it was ‘business as usual’ – returning to gentle arms-only with perhaps front crawl legs swimming, careful and limited cycling and continuing on with the exercises to improve strength and maximise the gains made. Wonderful. And, even better, I was sleeping until around 5 am. I diligently massaged the scar with cream and lavender oil, watching it slowly fade with satisfaction.

Back to gardening, too, though found that very tiring to start with.

Still, by mid-April I was well on the mend… and still another month to go before I had to return to work…

Two months of pain, discomfort and weariness. But friends had been marvellous, visiting so much especially during the first month, bringing ready meals of all kinds – even Korean! – chocolate, baked goods and flowers. So very, very kind. It was great to be able to sit and chat, and of course I had a lot of time for reading, too. Slowly, my brain began to return to normal…

 

 

January, February...February and more...

Where to start? The beginning of 2024 saw us catch up with Wendy and Nicholas over lunch, but then I had my first ladies breakfast of the year. 10 or so of us, gathered in the sitting room - the dining room was, once again, too small. It was, as always, great. I shared on hospitality, in particular using the two pictures from dear friends Tami and Lisa. The upper print from Kazakhstan by a well-known Russian  artist was given to me when Tami and Stan came to stay with us shortly after our arrival in Guernsey. it depicted the famous passage from Revelation: Behold, I stand at the door and knock... One of the ladies who came that morning was in fact Russian, so she was most excited to see it, researching the artist for me and showing me similar works. 

The lower picture was a card, framed by Lisa many years ago, showing 'our' blue and white china: we both love and own versions of the Blue Denmark Royal Copenhagen design, though mine are a humble copy. And, again, the picture reflects the hospitality of offering a cup of tea or coffee. For me, a fulfilment of a prophecy I was given 20 years previously that I would be 'ministering over the tea and coffee' cups. 
 
Jonny's friend and neighbour Bryan, a skilled photographer, created this wonderful wildlife calendar.
The early days of 2024 brought unexpected news. I phoned the Medical Specialist Group, wondering when my planned knee replacement would be happening - only to be given a date in a couple of weeks' time. I had had no idea it would be so quick, having already waited since September 2022 when I signed the pre-op disclaimer form. (I had actually been waiting since April 2022, but hadn't been told I wasn't actually on the waiting list until the form was signed.) I had not been expecting it before May at the earliest, so this was great news, although I had had a letter in December, addressed to me but written to someone else, saying that my op would be scheduled soon.

January 23rd was the proposed date. Eeek! I set about finishing up fiddly little jobs and preparing the house, as best I could, for the time when I would be incapacitated for a while. Recovery time before returning to work was, I was told, 6 - 8 weeks. (In actual fact, the day of the operation the surgeon told me I would be signed off for 3 months.)

Dentist's appointments - no treatment can be done for at least 3 months post-op in fear of infection, and even then I will have to have an antibiotic beforehand.  A wonderful afternoon tea out at a hotel with friends Sarah, Tess and generous Rose who treated us with the voucher she had been given. (I was so grateful to have fitted it in beforehand! See next month's post!). Lunches and dinners with friends, hosting dinner with our wonderful dog-sitters Anne-Marie and Paul. 

And snow! Just a little, not staying long, but still a delight.


And then the op was postponed, as I had a slight skin infection which needed to be cleared up. Once I have the knee implant, I will need to be careful of infection for the rest of my life as bacteria will congregate on the metal, possibly needing the replacement to be removed. 

Disappointing, but all for the best. 

The postponement meant that I could host another breakfast in February, meet up for coffee or go out to dinner with friends, have more friends round... and then, at half term, Phil and Judy came to stay. So wonderful to have them. We were able to celebrate Judy's 60th with lunch overlooking the sea at Cobo, on a lovely sunny day. So many special times of sharing and chatting.
However, on 14th February, I went into hospital to have the knee replacement... thankful to have fitted in a more active visit with the beforehand.


A good book!




New Year thoughts and wishes....









 

Wednesday 14 February 2024

Delightful December

December started to dry up... for a time. The first two weeks were spent finishing off at school and preparing to go to Tanzania in the middle of the month. This entailed much ordering from – and checking on the arrival of – items from Amazon, both Christmas presents from us and a lengthy list of necessities and presents on Adele’s behalf. Fortunately, everything arrived in good time. 

The packing wasn’t too bad, actually. I’d just acquired a new, larger suitcase in which everything fitted. The return journey, on the other hand, entailed one of our cabin suitcases packed carefully inside, as we had so little to bring back! Sadly, the new suitcase had a wheel removed by baggage handlers between Kilimanjaro and Heathrow – but that would be a story for January. 

Meanwhile, we fitted in a few lovely social things with friends. First off was a ‘drinky poos’ at Nicky and Richard’s, to welcome their friend Andrew who would be staying to look after the house and Maddie the dog while they were in Australia for 6 weeks. A simple ‘few drinks’ was an elaborate affair with all kinds of delicious nibbles. It was only a couple of days before they were due to leave, but Nicky spent much of the evening hovering over a hot stove and then triumphantly bearing round platters of smoked salmon, sausages, crispy Chinese spring rolls... a never-ending stream of food. As for their friends: what a marvellous group of people. Great fun and incredibly nice while being endlessly charming.  

We rolled home as late as if we had been at a dinner party... ready to host a brunch the next morning for friends Bryan and Tricia, living in St Peters and almost our nearest friends. The following weekend was tea with Kareena and then out to supper with Lis and James – such a kind couple who are always a joy to be with.  

And then... we were off to Tanzania for a couple of weeks. Just getting off the island by plane is always a bit of an adventure, wondering if weather or technical problems will delay us. But all was well. We met, briefly, friends Susie and Paul who were on the same flight, quickly catching up as we waited for our baggage, before catching the coach to Heathrow. 

It’s not simple, coming from GuernseyEspecially travelling during the London rush hour. A walk through arrivals to find the coach stop; finding the right coach; getting off at the Central Bus Station at Heathrow; finding the lifts – and the right floor for the train to take us to Terminal 4 – and yet more walking; negotiating the strange train system, where we still needed a ticket for the train journey  (unlike the shuttle between North and South Terminals at Gatwick) and had to ensure that we didn’t end up on a train which took us into London instead; finding the right lift AND the right floor at Terminal 4, which was tricky: we squeezed in to an overcrowded lift, pushed our way out again at the next stop, slightly panicking, only to find that we were at the entrance to a car park. The next lift was completely empty.  

By the time we got to Terminal 4, Someone had almost lost his sense of humour, so I left him collapsed on a bench while I tried to locate the hotel. A few seconds later, and there was a sign saying ‘hotels’...  a longish walk down an eerie, draughty walkway took us to yet another lift which didn’t seem to want to take us anywhere – until we realised that we were pressing the button for the same floor as we were already on... it had been a Long Day. 

Yet, walking into Reception was the best part of the journey. Welcoming and airy, it opened out onto a bar and restaurant area with even a little coffee shop/snack bar as well. Everything the weary traveller could need. The room was quiet, the bed super comfortable, and there was even an actual bath; a real treat. We were quite sorry that we were leaving so early (4am for a 6.30 flight) and couldn’t take advantage of the breakfast offer. 

All quite straightforward, in the end, despite not really knowing where we were going. One of us usually looks it all up in advance, but this time it really was a journey of discovery which involved actually reading and following signs.  

It could have been worse: we didn’t actually have to ask anyone what to do, partly because as we approached the train station, a train employee was standing at the entrance handing out the free tickets necessary for going through the turnstiles. (This seemed strange at the time: it was only on the return journey that I noticed the ticket machines. The press of people had completely obscured them from view on our way out – handing out the tickets evidently saved a lot of confusion, crowding and hassle.) 

We were to travel to Amsterdam for our connecting flight to Kilimanjaro. All went well; Amsterdam was easy; the flights were mostly on time; and, generally, it was all a better experience than in 2022 where KLM was obviously suffering the effects of Covid on its staffing.  

Going through immigration was the usual lengthy process, but at least we had obtained visas online before we came, but it was not too long before we arrived in the baggage hall to collect our luggage. 

Except we couldn’t. Yet again, for the second time running, our bags did not travel with us. After filling out the forms (this time, I had the sense to take a photograph of the claim form) we emerged into a warm African night and a taxi waiting for us. 

It only took about an hour and a quarter, late in the evening, to reach the Aga Khan estate on the other side of Arusha, courtesy of the new bypass which was in the process of being built on our last visit. Another five minutes of slow, careful driving into the estate, over a potholed dirt road, and we arrived at Jonny and Adele’s bungalow. Finn, of course, had been asleep for hours but Adele was still pottering, finishing off his birthday cake for the next day. 

What a joy to be with them – such a homecoming in many ways. Not just to be with family – although that was by far the best part of our trip – but also to be back in Africa.  

The days passed with waking to a wonderful dawn chorus – there is just nothing like the sound of the birds in East Africa. Playing with Finn, leisurely breakfasts, sitting in the garden, admiring Jonny’s carefully cultivated vege patch, going swimming in the school pool. Best of all was to see how happy they all are.  

Finn is, of course, the perfect grandbaby. Bilingual in both English and Swahili, although some occasions would call for only one language to be used. For example, something that fell down was ALWAYS ‘ameanguka’. He has a repertoire of nursery rhymes, knowing the words, singing in tune and then creating his own variations. 

We did a couple of camping trips. The first was to the Enduimet game reserve on the slopes of Mount Kilimanjaro. Jonny’s aim is always to find somewhere remote, secluded and away from people which we largely achieved, although we were visited by an elderly Masaai while having our morning coffee break. The reserve had quite a few villages and we could hear cowbells both in the evening and early morning – they were not too far away. Birds were lovely, Kili came out in the evening and just being out in the bush was wonderful.  

From Enduimet, we went to Simba Farm for a night, camping again but eating an evening meal in the lodge. It was quite international – a large Dutch family were journeying from South Africa northwards, travelling overland for a year on their way from a stint in Dubai, as were a German couple. Interesting to see so many different places, but I have always preferred to spend time with people rather than ‘taking’ as a passing tourist. Would I do something like that, if I had my time again? I don’t know, but I don’t think so. The precious years of working in Sweden and then western Kenya are enriching in uncountable ways. The interactions, relationships and friendships are just so meaningful.. 

Another trip was to Randilen, a reserve on the edge of Tarangire Park. Again, we saw no one except for the ranger at the entrance and had the ‘campsite’ to ourselves: on the edge of a dried up river bed with an enormous fig tree in the middle, home to a huge troop of baboons and a couple of vervet monkeys. We were rewarded with a visit from elephants in the early evening as we sat quietly listening to birds and enjoying the peace and tranquillity. 

En route home, we visited the small piece of land which Jonny has bought with friends: a quiet place to come and camp, or just spend the day, with the possibility of quickly going into Tarangire for a game drive. Remote - and yet with neighbours right next door. Distances are huge in Africa, but relationships are close. 

As for animals... I lost count. Only elephants of ‘the big five’, but it seemed inconsequential. After so many years in Kenya, it was lovely to see animals but not the purpose of our visit. However, it was a delight to see dozens of giraffes; several silver-backed jackals, a relatively rare sight for us; a multitude of zebra, impala and many many Thomson’s gazelles; warthogs; and even a hinged tortoise, scuttling to safety as we waited in the midday heat for paperwork to be completed. A little aside: the long-drop toilet near the entrance had a convenient bucket full of water at the side, complete with scoop for flushing. As I looked, I saw the surface of the water moving, then something evidently swimming. A small rat desperately tried to take a gasping breath as it paddled frantically, trying to get out. Richard took pity on it, scooping it out and leaving it to recover in a sodden heap. 

Adele had already scooped up water without noticing the rodent in residence. Fortunately, she had, by habit, washed her hands thoroughly in the plastic basin outside. 

Don’t think I’ve ever encountered a drowning rat before. 

We were, of course, there for Christmas as well as Finn’s birthday: a lovely relaxed day, around 12 of us altogether, eating together and sitting on the huge verandah. 

Other highlights: walks with Finn through the estate, finding unusual birds, gazing out at the endless bush and hills in front of us. A sudden flash flood, filling the ‘korongo’ - the deep gully- that bordered the garden – roared loudly one afternoon. Driving: the little ‘tuk tuks’ zipping around, Arusha’s little taxis; huge lorries coming up from Dar-Es-Salaam; ‘piccy piccies’ riding both ways along the same hard shoulder; flocks of goats and herds of cows wandering casually throught the petrol station; going shopping at the local ‘European’ centre – we never encountered a full-on African market while we were there: no need, as everything we needed could be bought locally. And, of course, the frequent swims in the school pool. And a deep sense of joy that the family are exactly where they need to be, in a comfortable living environment and with satisfying work in a great school with wonderful colleagues. (The head seems to be second to none: professional, caring, friendly...and inspiring to work for.) 

Just one sorrow/regret: we would miss dear Byron and Lisa, still in California, by a few days. None of us could warrant the expense of changing the tickets... for us, it would have added over £1000 to the cost of our flights. Next time....#livinginhope 

The journey home was uneventful. This time, Richard flew premium economy for the comfort of his bad back while I flew a few rows behind... not ideal, but it did save a few hundred pounds that we could then use for something else. All well – apart from finding the ‘new’ case had had a wheel broken off on arrival at Heathrow. (But, as I am writing this in FEBRUARY, I am happy to report that, after a few long and carefully considered emails, KLM eventually agreed to refund me for the broken wheel AND for the binoculars which had been stolen out of one of our delayed bags. Which was unexpected, as they had been so unhelpful about cancelled flights the previous visit, blaming it all on bad weather. Which is another story... as Richard could read the pilots’ weather reports and disputed KLM’s claim... water under the bridge, or snowstorm passed by, actually.) 

 Anyway. Good to be home eventually, with Anne-Marie meeting us at the airport, a rapturous welcome from Pickle and a marvellously clean house. 

We unpacked quickly; hopped in the shower; and went off to Belinda’s New Year’s Eve party for an hour or so. Good to reconnect with friends. 

2023 done and dusted.